The RSVP card!

What's so important about the RSVP?

Getting an accurate head count is important regardless of if you are having a buffet, heavy hors d'oeuvre's, or a plated meal!

An accurate head count is a must with a plated meal; those with and without assigned seating. The caterer must know how many portions to prepare since individual plates are served. Often caterers will prepare a little extra, but not enough to cover too many unannounced guests. You also do not want to guesstimate your numbers. It's too costly to pay for the 'maybes' or 'will sees'!

Unfortunately, there is a bad trend where guests respond with more guests on their cards than were invited. It's very bad etiquette, yet you're left holding the bill. There's also a bad trend of not responding at all. If this is the case with your guests, there is something you can do.

One very helpful hint is to lightly number the back of each RSVP card to match their number on your invite list. Some guests forget to put their name on the RSVP! Numbering the cards will let you track who has not responded.

Don't let it get you frustrated! It is perfectly within etiquette to have your bridesmaids call non-respondent RSVPs. Just be sure to select maids with some tact. Have them simply say, "we have not received your RSVP for the wedding and wanted to see if you will be able to join us." It's OK to put them on the spot to get the accurate count! It's not OK for them to be holding out for something better to come along! Seriously!? While there are some legitimate reasons to respond with a 'maybe' the majority of your guests should be able to commit to an answer.

Most caterers required the final head count to be given two weeks before the wedding. So, set the RSVP date 3 weeks prior to the wedding. There will always be those that respond late and this will give your maids time to follow up!

The RSVP number is also important if you are ordering individual chairs for the ceremony and preparing favors for each guest.

Be bold... number the cards... and sic your maids on them if they do not respond!

Get an accurate number!

Planner Girl:)